1)Don’t Be Shy!
A real sticking point for many Asian guys (other guys too)! If you lack confidence around women, how are they ever going to know what a cool, fun and interesting guy you are? There’s no easy fix for shyness, only push yourself to get out there and talk to people, most girls will respond well to a guy who approaches her as long as he is relaxed and confident. And if the worst scenario happens, she will probably just politely excuse herself! No big deal, huh? If you are shy and want to get some confidence without taking to big risks, you can also try online dating (Asia Friend Finder Review)
2 )Nerdiness / Very Conventional
Has to do with Asian culture, family and expectations. Go to school, study hard, get good grades then get a good job that pays well. THEN you can get the girl! A bad mindset to have, that you need money and power to get a girl!
3) Body Image / Not Going To The Gym
White guys in Asia gets a bad rep for being fat, even if its muscle. Asian guys in the US gets a rep for being skinny! Not fair, but something you can work on. Working out and lifting heavy weights will give you so much return, besides looking great. More confidence, more energy, more inner strenght.
4) You deserve white girls!
Some Asian guys seem to have negative beliefs about dating white women. Some of it may come from not feeling good enough or that there is racism to overcome. It’s true to some degree that there is racism, but thats the same for all interracial dating. If you have enough confidence and believe in your self, others will too.
5) Approach Anxiety
Cultural maybe? It is normal for asians to do everything in (big) groups and stay with the group the entire time. But if you never approach a girl you like you won’t get the chance to show her what a great guy you are. Most women respect a guy who sees something he likes and goes for it. This is even more true for white girls, because they expect a man to show his interest in her more directly and not need a support group!
6) Be More Direct Sexually
There is not the same stigma attached to making out or getting physical in public for most white girls, as for asian girls. In fact, if you don’t touch her at all during the first 10 minutes you talk to her, you will probably end up in the dreaded friend zone. The best is of course to make her initiate contact and then escalate.
7) Have A Good Sense Of Fashion
I am a white guy who has lived in Asia for some years now, I know how important fashion and clothes are. Asian fashion is really cool and unique for the most part, so don’t be afraid to import some style! If you have the build (see nr. 3) a good look for asian guys is the bad boy Triad look. I have also seen many asian guys do really well with white girls dressed sharply in more classy clothes.
8 ) Be More Of A Lover Instead Of A Provider
The family structure is different in the west. Men and women both work and earn good wages (I know asian women do this too), and women have been told not to depend on men for money, so they don’t place as much importance on job and career in the men they look for. Instead they look for men who can give them powerful emotions and lead her imagination. Try do develop that side of you.
9) Hold Eye Contact!
Eye contact is a big deal in western societies, not so much in Asia. Hold eye contact with all people, but especially women you would like to meet. Just for a bit longer than feels comfortable and don’t look away first.
10) Not Being Able To Let Go And Have Fun!
Asian culture generally encourages that you hide your true emotions in public, but western women will feel disconnected from you, if you don’t show and share your emotions. It is also ok to disagree openly with something she says and say EXACTLY what you mean. Within common sense of course!
April 29th, 2009 at 11:32 pm
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